I know... And yes, I believe there is a need for balance. There is no love without strife, no joy without agony. If we did not experience these pains, we would never appreciate the value of our happier experiences. It's humbling and a reminder of our humanity.

Time heals. Sometimes it can take a lifetime to heal, but hang in there. You'll come out of it stronger and wiser.

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Ni Ascherenh.

There is always a ying to a yang and vice versa. Like Helaris said, time heals and there is a balance to maintain. I"m sorry that you had to bare witnes to betrayal, but it is part of the growing process. There is not one person on this planet that has not had that feeling at some point in there life span. Some more that others. You live, you mourn the loss of the relationsip, grow from it, and move on. It may take years, days, hours, or in worse cases a life time. I know you are strong and will pull through this. I have faith in you and I have faith in the healing of all wounds. After all, it is only the wounded that ever trully live thier lives to fullest.

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"Here is what I want you to do...
First, grab a potatoe. Second, wrap the potatoe in foil.
Third, light yourself on fire.
This way you're dead and I have a baked pototoe..." -husband to ex-friend.

Thanks.
I just feel sometimes, that it's not worth it - that the happiness you get from relationships doesn't really balance out the pain and hopelessness from the betrayals.

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"Hope is the denial of reality. It is the carrot dangled before the draft horse to keep him plodding along in a vain attempt to reach it."
'Are you saying we shouldn't hope?'
"I'm saying we should remove the carrot and walk forward with our eyes open"

I don't know if time will heal... when the one person you thought you could trust more than anyone else betrays you, how can that ever go away?
I'm not the type to forgive things.. I may forget the reason, but it means that things will never be the same.

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"Hope is the denial of reality. It is the carrot dangled before the draft horse to keep him plodding along in a vain attempt to reach it."
'Are you saying we shouldn't hope?'
"I'm saying we should remove the carrot and walk forward with our eyes open"

It may seem like that now, but later on you will find true relationships and they will be very worth it. Trust me, I've been through countless betrayals and back stabbings to not pull the wool over your eyes. There will always be betrayals, but not all of them will out weigh the good that is out there waiting for you. Take your time and they will happen. ^_~b

And you are welcome

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"Here is what I want you to do...
First, grab a potatoe. Second, wrap the potatoe in foil.
Third, light yourself on fire.
This way you're dead and I have a baked pototoe..." -husband to ex-friend.

I know it's hard to forgive, but if nobody ever forgave, relationships would stagnate and fester like old wounds and all people would enter a vicious cycle of striking back at each other, or just hating each other. If we never forgave, there would be no end to wars, families would be torn apart, peoples would be ever restless, bound by their grudges against one another. We all make mistakes. If we cannot forgive those mistakes, even if they're betrayal of the highest order, how can we ever overcome them, learn from them, and become better people? Humanity is flawed. We must forgive ourselves our flaws if ever we're to grow wiser.

I have been betrayed as you have, by the person I regarded my best friend. I forgave. I was betrayed again. I forgave again. I do not hold a grudge, despite the hurts I suffered twice. I have allowed those wounds to heal and so overcome the past. I find comfort in the fact that I was able to avoid entering a vicious feud with her.

People will always have greed. People will always use one another, take from one another. It's inherent in our nature. But we can't just take, take, take or we end up empty, false, hollow. We must give too. We must forgive before we can receive recompense for the harm done to us.

Don't forget, no. We learn lessons from the cruelties dealt us in life. We should never forsake that. But neither should we hold those memories bitter and stagnant. We must move on. It will take a long time, and yes things will be changed. We dislike change because it upsets our comfort, but change is inevitable. Everything must change.

Please take care :/

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Ni Ascherenh.